Daphne & Scarlett’s Birth Story

On June 10th, 2017 Sophia Rose woke up at 4:00 am because she is sick (the day before we took her to the doctor and she has an ear infection). After she finally went back to bed I found myself struggling to go back to sleep, which often happens when something wakes me up at an ungodly hour. So, I start reading on my phone and in my head, I’m going back and forth if I should get up and pee, at this point I’m so pregnant that getting out of bed was like running a marathon, not easy. I don’t know about you but when I pee in the morning that is it, I’m up so I felt I was delaying the inevitable. So, I got up, waddled to the potty but the strangest thing, I heard a pop. Nothing alarming but during my pregnancy with Sophia Rose I had something called a mucus plug fall out so I thought the pop might have been that. If you don’t know what a mucus plug is, its gross and is exactly what it sounds like. Anyways, when your mucus plug falls out it doesn’t mean you’re in labor it just means your body is ready. So, thinking it was my mucus plug I go over in my head the list of things I still need to get done before the twins get here in a week. I need to get the car washed, I need to install the car seats, I need to wash their clothes, get the crib sheets on and then I got excited because I was going to eat a bagel for breakfast! Once I was done I got up and heard a gush! It seriously sounded like someone dumped a gallon of water in the toilet and I just knew, my water had just broke. During my last pregnancy the labor class said that if your water breaks it’s not like the movies, there is no need to rush unless it’s a yellow or a green color. With Sophia Rose my water broke as well but with her my water tuned yellowish-green color. So, I got my towel shoved it between my thighs and headed back into my bed room. Fun fact: not sure if you knew this but when your water breaks it breaks until you deliver your baby aka your body has a crazy amount of water stored in there. When I get back to the bedroom I can’t help but laugh because Sophia Rose was a week early and so are these twins also Sophia Rose is super sick, I have so much I wanted to get done today and I’m hungry!! Once your water breaks you can’t eat, I remember that from last time. I gently wake up my husband and I told him my water broke and he said “okay, give me 5 more minutes” …. I want five more minutes! If I can’t have it neither can you!! Since my vagina is still gushing water I had no idea where I should sit, can’t sit on my bed because I don’t want to get that wet. Can’t sit on the chair in my room as it’s all fabric and I don’t want to get that wet so I sit on my floor. I called my doctor and she asked me if I knew the last known position of Baby A (baby A is the baby lowest aka closest to the exit) I let her know the entire pregnancy Baby A has been face down but at yesterday’s appointment she was transverse (sideways) so she told me that I need to go to the hospital asap because something could be wrong if she isn’t in position but I’m in labor. So, I tell my husband your five minutes are up and I start to call the family. The only family member that is close is my brother-in-law, my mother in law was going to take my daughter and they live at least an hour away so we called my brother in law to come pick up Sophia Rose. I felt at this point I was in a rush so I told my brother- in- law to meet us at the hospital (he lived closer to the hospital than he did to us) We woke Sophia Rose up and told her that her sisters are coming and that we needed to go. She got up like a trooper and we headed out the door. The original plan for the day was that my husband and I were going to go the hospital and figure out where I need to go when I go into labor but since the twins came early we had to wing it! We finally get to the hospital an hour after talking to the doctor and we get lost (duh) while we were trying to find where to go a car cut us off and I yell out the window “ASSHOLE” and of course my daughter repeated it like 3 times but I couldn’t worry about it since I still had water gushing! I’m so uncomfortable that I just have my husband drop me off in front and to meet me upstairs.

I get checked in a changed into my gown and I’m having contractions consistently but I’m not really feeling them thank goodness! My husband gets to the room and everyone is very transparent about what’s about to happen. At this point it’s 8:00 am and they tell me at 8:30 am I should be going into surgery. The best news is that the twins were not in destress and delivery should go smoothly.

The anesthesiologist comes in and was the most kind, nicest and calmest person I ever met in my entire life. The entire delivery he would tell me all the sensation that I was about to feel. Once we got into the operating room he would constantly talk to me. He would say things like “okay now you’ll feel like you can’t breathe but don’t worry this is what the oxygen is for” etc. Even when my husband walked away to cut the umbilical cord he would come next to me and tell me how great I was doing and he reassured me that anything I feel to tell him and he would say something like “yes, that’s exactly how you should be feeling” or “that’s completely normal” I need this guy in my everyday life to validate my feelings. Once the babies got washed they brought them over to me to kiss and snuggle with and then they sewed me back together again and I went straight to recovery. The only down side about the first hours of recovery was I was so itchy and shaky from the drugs I was on. It was very distracting. Pretty immediately they brought the twins to me in recovery and we tried to breastfeed them and they immediately latched, it was love at first site. I’m proud of myself, I’m proud of my husband and I’m proud of these girls. I couldn’t have asked for a better delivery. All the nurses were so kind and empathetic. I definitely had a great experience at this hospital and I think the twins did too

Welcome to the World Little Ones!

I’m so happy to announce my twins have entered the world on June 10th 2017! Both healthy and strong! Let me introduce you to Daphne Danger Schwarz &  Scarlett Sage Schwarz.

Daphne: 6 lb 8 oz at 9:43 am & Scarlett 5 lbs 12 oz at 9:42 am, both 19 inches long.

The most surprising part about them is how similar they are to how they were in the womb. Daphne (Baby B) is stubborn, tough and a little piggy when she eats. Scarlett (Baby A) dainty, soft and particular. they were a week early from the scheduled c-section date and a whole month early from their due date, I can’t get over how they were just in my belly! Both of them! When they cry they kick their little legs and I think “wow they kicked me like that!”. My next blog post will be their birth story, so until then enjoy cooing over these cute little bundles!!

Twins

Adventures in Babysitting 

The other week we baby sat my friend and fellow blogger Ashley Angel‘s one year old Azalea (if you haven’t seen her blog check it out because her kid is freaking adorable). It was very last minute and the only interaction I had with her was at Disneyland and she was in a stroller most the time so I’m not sure if she’d remembered me. As you all know I have twins on the way and I thought what a great way to brush the dust off then to watch her for a few hours. It was also going to be interesting to see/ test Sophia Rose on her big sister skills too. Taking care of a one year old is so much different then a baby but at that one year’s old age you have to be way more attentive making sure they don’t put things in their mouth, running with scissors or other dangerous stuff since they seem to get into EVERYTHING!  So which one is more work?? A Baby or a one year old? The interesting part is Ashley and Azalea have never really been away from each other, this would be the longest time away from one another. So I felt that could complicate my success with babysitting her just a bit.

It started off great, she waved good- bye to Mama and Dada with no tears but I think it’s because she was so distracted by Sophia Rose. I wasn’t sure how Sophia Rose would act because she has never been around someone smaller then her. She is either around kids her age or older. So it was an rough start for her as the baby wanted to touch and hold everything she was holding which is completely understandable since it was all new to Azalea. I had a few old baby toys I brought out since I was worried Azalea would get bored but she was so uninterested she’d rather see what Sophia Rose was doing. No matter where or what Sophia Rose was doing that little baby watched. She didn’t quite interact with her, just watching.

Sophia Rose tried to be nice and give the baby toys but they were toys that Sophia Rose didn’t care about and because Sophia Rose didn’t care, neither did the Azalea. It seemed I had to constantly say “let the baby play with that, it’s her turn”. What was also interesting and unexpected but should of been expected was Sophia Rose being jealous. Since my husband and I haven’t been around a child that small in a long time we found ourselves constantly laughing at the things she did, or oohhhh and awwwwing over her adorableness and like a cartoon character Sophia Rose put her face in our face and try to do adorable things too. So it was a good reminder to us to divide our attention equally between the two.

Next was dinner time, at this point we have been alone with Azalea for two maybe three hours and she still hasn’t cried or asked for Mama or Dada which made it seem like we were still doing good! This is where my husband and I had to divided. He went to make dinner and I was on watching the little ladies duty. My husband loves making dinner (I know aren’t I lucky!) so tonight’s dinner menu was pasta, yum! My hubby made the tomato sauce from scratch (how cute is that) and we had baby bow tie pasta. Unfortunately Azalea didn’t like the divide and conquer, she did not like my husband being out of her sight so she whined and pulled on the baby gate that divides the kitchen and living room so my husband finished cooking with her in his arms. We all sat around the dinner table and just like we remembered we cut the baby bow ties in half lightly sauced with tomato sauce and Azalea went to town! For my husband and I this was fascinating to watch. At this age Sophia Rose main method of nutrition was a bottle with formula, she didn’t eat solids and she was a picky eater. So to watch someone so young gobble up her dinner it was so nice to see!! After dinner was bath time for Sophia Rose, we were trying to stick to the same routine and the whole time in the bath Sophia Rose would yell ” what are you doing?”. I could tell she didn’t like being away from all the commotion so I went in and washed her hair and let her get out of the bath.

At this point in the evening it seemed my husband and I got our groove back and the girls were finally playing with one another. So after Sophia Rose dried off we all played together until bed time. We brought Azalea to Sophia Rose’s room and had her hang out with us for story time and we kissed Sophia Rose goodnight and we took Azalea into the living room. Again Sophia Rose didn’t like being away from the action so we could hear her open her door or she’d nicely ask “what are you doing?” My husband and I felt bad but we really wanted to stick to the routine so he went and laid down with her until she fell asleep.

But then It was just me…and Azalea. To be honest I was so uncomfortable, I felt like she didn’t like me since she seemed to gravitate towards my husband more all evening. So I stuck to my routine/ cravings which are oranges. This whole pregnancy all I want are oranges. I don’t know how I got her attention but the second I finished peeling the oranges there she was with this adorable face, a very expressive face. Its as if she used the words “oh what’s that can I have some?” each word sounding longer and longer. I wasn’t sure what to do since my kid doesn’t voluntarily want to try new things so I was kind of excited to share with her so I took a tiny bite and gave it to her. It’s like I exposed her to crack, she quickly scooted up on the couch and sat really close to me, almost right on top of me. I thought to myself, I think she wants more. So I got up and cut the oranges into tiny pieces and put them in a bowl for her. I gave them to her on the couch and she vacuumed all the pieces so fast that before I reached the kitchen to grab myself another orange she was right behind me with an empty bowl and banging it on the metal baby gate bars like she was in jail trying to get my attention. I thought to myself “I think she wants more!” So I texted Ashley asking if Azalea has ever had any oranges and she said no but not to give her to much because of the acid in the oranges. I felt terrible like oh my gosh duh! How could I not think of that! What about all the sugar in oranges and it’s so late (its like 8:30p or 9:30p at this point) so I cut the addict off and didn’t give her any more oranges. At that time Luke had just come out of Sophia Roses room and Azalea slightly whimpering as if she was tattle tailing on me cutting her off of oranges ran up to him and wanted to be picked up.

We didn’t expect Ashley and her husband AJ back for a couple of hours (it was about 10:oop at this point) but those oranges really really got Azalea going, her personality really came out. When Ashley dropped Azalea off she listed off all these warnings like she loves to climb,   she’ll be running around making a mess everywhere etc. Luke and I looked at each other like “please we got this Sophia Rose was that and so much more” but after those oranges hit the blood stream SHE WAS OFF! Running around literally making circles around the couch hollering, constantly following my dogs saying ” dog, dog, woof” it was hilarious. We thought where has this kid been? This is not the same person from two hours ago. It was so much fun to watch and interact with. Then all a sudden she stops and looks up at us and starts to cry. Luke and I stood there, what do we do??? she hasn’t cried all night!!!! So we went back to basics! We went through the check list, is she hungry? no she ate a lot not that long ago. Check her diaper! Sure enough she was wet. The diaper change was pretty easy she didn’t really cry or whimper or squirm. Luckily that was it and the guessing game was over….so we thought. We put her down and she was a little slower, wasn’t running as fast. She again looked up and gave us a huge pouty lip and Luke swooped her up and held her for no more than 6 minutes and she was OUT! ASLEEP! We mental high fived and we never felt more confidant in our parenting skills. She only woke up once after that until Mama and Dada came to pick her up which I thought was great because she was sleeping in a house she has never been at before. All in all I think the evening was a slam dunk! It truly gave my husband and I some confidence back in regards to child rearing at that age. The future is full of unknown as this family has grown fast and it feels like we’re growing over night but if my twins are anything like little Azalea, we will be fine. If they’re anything like Sophia Rose was at that age…God help me because my hands will be full but my heart will be full and it’ll all work out.

As I reflect on that evening I think of the lessons I learned:

  1. *Reminder* Sophia Rose is will no longer be an only child.
  2. Sophia Rose has grown up so fast!
  3. We have to do a better job at giving Sophia Rose attention so she doesn’t feel left out.
  4. Manage Sophia Rose’s expectations of what life will be like soon.
  5. Finally,  routine routine routine

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